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The "Stork"

When I was seven, Mom and Dad sat my brother and I down with Where Did I Come From? and told us exactly how babies were made, that our bodies were wonderful, and that when we were married adults, we, too, would be able to make babies if we wanted to (yes, we were made to understand that pregnancy was possible without the benefit if marriage while also strongly encouraged to view baby-making only within the context of marriage; we were seven and five, and that was reasonable—that said, mostly, my brother just laughed, but the "babies" lesson was repeated and expanded upon appropriately as we grew older).

My parents did this because one of my friends was running around telling everyone that the Stork, an actual entity endorsed by God, brought her to her parents. That story alarmed my parents, who did everything they could to disabuse us of its truth (a tad too well, in my case, as I proceeded to read my new book to all my friends, something that didn't sit well with Stork Girl's parents. :P).

In any case, this sort of storkian BS continues; not only is there some new movie about storks and babies, but this morning at the coffee house, I overheard a mother telling her daughter, who looked about nine- or ten-years-old, "Well, we won't know if the baby's a boy or a girl until the Stork brings it. The blanket's color will be our clue."

*sighs*

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too_dle_oo
Sep. 10th, 2016 01:20 pm (UTC)
OMG. Why do people teach their children that sex and genitalia don't exist? I know I'm biased from my own childhood, but being raised by a biologist who let us live at the zoo meant that we saw animals copulating at early ages and were raised to use the words penis and vagina.

I'm totally game with putting reasonable limits on when this activity happens when you're talking to kids: "they're married and making a baby" or "they're a family and they want to add to their family" seem logical to me.

I just think that a good deal of child abuse can happen when parents don't teach their children that private parts exist, that they're meant to be private, and that nobody is allowed to touch them there. Moreover, parents should teach kids that they should tell them if anyone tries to touch them.

STORKS. To a 9-year-old?!

Edited at 2016-09-10 01:20 pm (UTC)
iulia_linnea
Sep. 10th, 2016 10:29 pm (UTC)

I just think that a good deal of child abuse can happen when parents don't teach their children that private parts exist, that they're meant to be private, and that nobody is allowed to touch them there. Moreover, parents should teach kids that they should tell them if anyone tries to touch them.


Agreed.

Storks. To a nine-year-old. It boggles.
fairyniamh
Sep. 10th, 2016 02:17 pm (UTC)
I was told that I was found in a cabbage patch.

I told both of my girls when where they come from when they asked at 4 or 5. I wanted them to understand that. To know how babies are made, how miserable I was when I was pregnant (eldest saw it, youngest knows it is not natural to lose 30 lbs DURING pregnancy.)

It is not an easy talk to have and put into words for a young mind to understand, but I was raised them with the thought that if a child is old enough to ask, they are old enough to be told the truth. Maybe not the FULL disclosure, but enough to make things understood.

I will admit that there have been times where I wished I really was plucked up from a cabbage patch. Well, everyone dislikes something about their family.
iulia_linnea
Sep. 10th, 2016 10:29 pm (UTC)
Oh, dear.

Excellent.

Agreed.

Oh, dear. *hugs*
stgulik
Sep. 10th, 2016 02:19 pm (UTC)
My mother gets squicked out by any talk of bodily functions, much less sex. She laughs now and *claims* she had the sex talk with me when I was three, and if I don't remember it, that was on my head, not hers. (Other, less squicked-out loved ones took the responsibility seriously; I was not completely uninformed.)
iulia_linnea
Sep. 10th, 2016 10:30 pm (UTC)
Thank goodness for extended family!
mywitch
Sep. 10th, 2016 03:51 pm (UTC)
I got fired off that stork movie.
It was the best day ever. :D
iulia_linnea
Sep. 10th, 2016 10:32 pm (UTC)
Detail? And yay!(?)
blueartemis07
Sep. 10th, 2016 04:39 pm (UTC)
My mother was amazingly uninformative, saying we would learn it at school. I went to Catholic School. Amazing how they sort of told us about sex without going into the mechanics. And they separated us.

I had seen pregnant women, so I knew that babies were in tummies, you know?

If N asks, I tell him, well enough to be understood. And he knows the words penis and vagina.
iulia_linnea
Sep. 10th, 2016 10:31 pm (UTC)
Oh, dear. *huggles*

I worked it out visually, as well, at least, to some degree. :)

Yay!
arynwy
Sep. 12th, 2016 04:15 am (UTC)
Just as long as somebody informs them that the boys that are trying to get into their pants are on a first name basis with the Stork and that they need to stay away from them... :p

Okay, no joking here - I wish people could be more honest about how our bodies work, sex, menopause and health issues in general. I wouldn't have spent so much of my 20's muttering, "WTF".
iulia_linnea
Sep. 12th, 2016 03:29 pm (UTC)
Hee!

Me, too. It's ridiculous to keep ourselves in ignorance.
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