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Wolves are amazing:

Today's Yesterday's visit with the nieces showed us how amazingly tall they are getting:

The girls and Shog

Little Niece (who's actually about two inches taller than the photo makes her appear because she's leaning forward) wanted me to take a picture of her new hairdo. Big Niece didn't want to stop drawing on Uncle Beard's knowledge of Minecraft to immortalize her "soccer hair" in a photo, but she eventually relented to give her sister a chance to talk to him, too:

Tall child!

How is it possible that a ten- and seven-year-old should be so tall?!

I spent time looking at different dog breeds with Big Niece (who really wants a dog), and with Little Niece, I randomly browsed. We found this next vid, which is full of amazing fun:

ZORBS! Even though I desperately wanted to play with them, I (jokingly) told Little Niece that I was probably too old and fat to do it. She huffed at me and then said, "The water would make you lighter when you were inside of it, so you could too play with it. And you could knock around all the littler people in the games [we also saw a vid of ZORB soccer featuring the mini ZORBS] 'cause you're, um, so solid." She was so pleased with herself for coming up with "solid," the little diplomat. :P

Speaking of diplomacy, when Little Niece took me to the porch to show off their garden (the girls and their father are growing tomatoes, peppers, and herbs), she told me, "These were Daddy's beans. They just wouldn't grow. It's not his fault they're dead." When Daddy moved out of earshot, she continued, "I don't think he watered his beans enough. All our stuff's growing." *snorts*

I learned from Big Niece that a classmate accused her of having fat thighs, and I became quite exercised (at least, in my mind) when she told me that she was fat. Shog also took issue with that, so he found before and after pics of models on mag covers to discuss unrealistic bodily expectations. Big Niece was quick to point out all the photo-shopping with much disgust on her part and no prompting from us. She was also quick to note that the manipulated girls didn't look real, so I hope that she internalized something good from the conversation. In no way is Big Niece fat, and it really disturbs me that she's already dealing with that sort of weight-related bullshit. (ETA: Having reread this, I realize that I probably should not joke about being old and fat with the girls—no matter that I am, in fact, fat—because who knows how they'll internalize that kind of talk? *resolves to be more mindful*)

In any case, the girls are fine, if still quite sad about Aunt L. (we talked at length about that upon our arrival), but they seem to be handling their grief well (by which I mean that they're actually allowing themselves to grieve in their own ways).

Okay, so that's the SSHG Prompt Fest deadline now long passed, so I can finally go to bed. That's good, as I must be up at five. *meeps*

P.S. We saw bunnies and babies of all sorts today yesterday, as well. Bunnies! Yard bunnies! And dinosaurish-looking, waddling goslings! *twirls* Okay, it's almost two. I'm really going to bed, now! *smooches flist*


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Jun. 1st, 2015 06:20 am (UTC)
Little niece is a diplomat!

It is sad that big niece is already facing this kind of coments. Peer presure over body imagine start really soon with girls. It is awfull. I think you both did the right thing talking about body expectations. Maybe comment on how nobody should comment on each other weight, might be good too. How all of you love each other no matter how solid thery are ;)
Jun. 1st, 2015 02:57 pm (UTC)
How all of you love each other no matter how solid thery are ;)

Hee! Yes, and Shog made a point of saying it wasn't polite to discuss people's weight (which shocked me because Shog is not a diplomat :P).
Jun. 1st, 2015 05:43 pm (UTC)
Surely this must be a recurrent discussion over the years until the message is well learned.
Jun. 1st, 2015 10:39 pm (UTC)
Agreed. :)
Jun. 1st, 2015 07:39 pm (UTC)
They don't grow them small any more. :P
Jun. 1st, 2015 10:40 pm (UTC)
It's true! And they were recently so very tiny!
Jun. 1st, 2015 08:17 pm (UTC)
Hi fives for the positive body image from big niece who is not anywhere NEAR being anything other than a perfect size. If I had a grand-niece I'd keep from making fat comments ... the old comments are flying free. If only to get people to say that I don't LOOK 59. :)I'm a sucker for positive validation.
Jun. 1st, 2015 10:42 pm (UTC)
When I was 10, body image issues were the furthest thing from my mind. It's sad that little girls have to deal with this sort of thing, but at least Big Niece has a lot of positive relationships with people who won't let her get stuck in a bad mindset.

People's only comment about one's age should that one looks fabulous! :D
Jun. 3rd, 2015 12:23 am (UTC)
I became quite exercised...when she told me that she was fat. Shog also took issue with that, so he found before and after pics of models on mag covers to discuss unrealistic bodily expectations...

Shog rocks, as do you. Most awesome interaction with young nieces -- so important to give them tools to fight the idiocy that the media shoves in our faces every day.

Now, WAHT are those hilarious water-balls in the video?? I MUST TRY THIS lol!!!
Jun. 4th, 2015 02:20 pm (UTC)
Don't the Zs look fun?! :D

I'm glad we had a chance to talk to Big Niece; I expect we'll have to talk to her again. I can't believe she's facing talk of fatness at ten. >:(
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